Comments on: How Good Friends Can Keep Us Down http://www.open-secrets.com/observations/how-good-friends-can-keep-us-down/ Exploring the Obvious Tue, 10 Jan 2012 07:40:34 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: haj1155 http://www.open-secrets.com/observations/how-good-friends-can-keep-us-down/comment-page-1/#comment-510 haj1155 Wed, 03 Feb 2010 23:54:47 +0000 http://www.open-secrets.com/?p=1070#comment-510 Hi Paddy - that's when getting present and into our bellies really helps. Instead of getting "hooked" into the drama of the self-images we can see them for what they are and deal with them in a real way. thanks for the comment Hi Paddy – that’s when getting present and into our bellies really helps. Instead of getting “hooked” into the drama of the self-images we can see them for what they are and deal with them in a real way.

thanks for the comment

]]> By: Paddy http://www.open-secrets.com/observations/how-good-friends-can-keep-us-down/comment-page-1/#comment-508 Paddy Wed, 03 Feb 2010 19:58:13 +0000 http://www.open-secrets.com/?p=1070#comment-508 Thank you for bringing this forward. I often feel this sense of falseness when people quickly reiterate, "It's all good!" or "It is what it is!" when something isn't working out or they're actually disappointed...as though touching into the disappointment will make it worse or reveal more vulnerability. In some situations, I feel a little uneasy when I don't smile or acknowledge when someone is attempting to feed me narcissistic supplies. And then I get to look at the subtle ways I attempt to get these supplies when I'm feeling insecure and identified with ego deficiency. I find myself not wanting to be in many group situations because the self images are rampant and harder for me to feel connected. Is that when "it is what it is!" comes in handy?? Thank you for bringing this forward.

I often feel this sense of falseness when people quickly reiterate, “It’s all good!” or “It is what it is!” when something isn’t working out or they’re actually disappointed…as though touching into the disappointment will make it worse or reveal more vulnerability.

In some situations, I feel a little uneasy when I don’t smile or acknowledge when someone is attempting to feed me narcissistic supplies. And then I get to look at the subtle ways I attempt to get these supplies when I’m feeling insecure and identified with ego deficiency.

I find myself not wanting to be in many group situations because the self images are rampant and harder for me to feel connected. Is that when “it is what it is!” comes in handy??

]]>